84. THE FIRST DUI/DWI
What Research Shows
If your teenager or young adult child gets a DUI (Driving Under the Influence) or DWI (Driving While Intoxicated), do not let them—or yourself—shrug it off as a typical youthful mistake. At a young age, even a single charge of driving under the influence is enough evidence to know there is a serious problem with alcohol or drugs. In fact, 25% of first time offenders go on to commit other DUI offenses. Getting behind the wheel while impaired isn't just a bad decision; it represents a profound breakdown of self-control. To get arrested, they had to make a series of dangerous choices: to use, to drive, and to ignore the threat they posed to themselves and everyone else on the road.
What You See
Statistics tell us that a first-time arrest is rarely the first time they drove drunk or high. It is simply the first time they got caught. Yet, when confronted, they will likely try to minimize it—blaming bad luck, a short drive, or an overzealous cop. If there is more than one DUI it is cause for alarm.
What You Can Do
Don't fall for these excuses. In fact, when the person decided to use the alcohol to excess or use any form of mood or mind-alteering chemical, the also knoew that the keys to the car were in their pocket and they would need to drive. Remind your loved one that the definiiton of addiction is that a person continues to use alcohol or a drug despite any threat or consequence. Using with keys and ready to drive while consuming an abuse level of alcohol or any drug ignores the treat this is when they are using or the consequence that happens as a result - DUI, reckless endangerment, and vehicular homicide are just three consequences. A youthful DUI is a loud, terrifying distress signal. It is a sign that their substance use has already escalated past safety boundaries and legal limits. Treating it as an "unlucky, one-off event" is a dangerous form of denial. Before this behavior leads to a tragic, irreversible outcome, treat that first arrest for what it truly is: a desperate warning that they need help.
This sign is for awareness and education only. It is useful as a screening tool, not a diagnostic tool. It is not a substitute for professional assessment or treatment. If you are concerned about someone you love, speaking with a qualified addiction counselor or psychologist is always the right next step.