About 101 Ways to Tell
The 101 Ways to Tell if Someone I Love is Addicted is a system and tool created by Dr Roger P. Watts.
About the System 101 Ways to Tell
The second page moves into the psychological landscape. Addiction alters personality. This section lists behaviors related to mood regulation and defensive mechanisms. You will evaluate how often your loved one exhibits unprovoked aggression, extreme irritability, or the "flat affect"—a zombie-like numbness where they seem emotionally absent. It asks you to look for the "victim mentality," where the individual refuses to take responsibility for any error, blaming teachers, bosses, or family members for their own failures.
This page also tracks the specific tactic of "gaslighting" and deception. How often does the person lie about their whereabouts? Do they become enraged when asked simple questions? Do they attempt to make you feel crazy for suspecting them? This section measures the degree to which the person has constructed a fortress of denial around themselves and how aggressively they defend it against your inquiries.
Dr Roger P. Watts
I am a retired, former, non-licensed Psychologist with a doctorate degree in General Psychology and a specialization in addictions. I also once worked as documentary photographer producing visual and written essays on people, places, things, and situations regarding the human adaptation to the urban environment.
My life's journey has been a tapestry of diverse threads. As a retired counselor specializing in addictions and trauma, I found profound meaning in helping individuals heal and reclaim their lives. Leading group therapy sessions, witnessing the transformative power of shared experiences, and empowering individuals to navigate their psychological challenges filled my days with purpose.
My academic pursuits at Hazelden Betty Ford Graduate School of Addiction Studies, Concordia, and Augsburg universities allowed me to share my knowledge and passion for psychology. I still relish research on personality disorders, neuroscience, and the complex interactions of small groups.
Prior to my clinical work, I served in the Press Office for President Jimmy Carter on the advance team and developed a working relationship with members of the national media. In 1981, I embarked on a 15-year adventure as a photojournalist, capturing the essence of human stories through the lens of my camera. I worked as a freelance photojournalist in Washington DC and moved my work through the now-defunct Gamma-Liaison Photo Agency in New York and Paris. I produced stories on politics and personalities in the public arena by with documentary news and feature essays for print media by covering the White House, Congress, and breaking national news stories.
After my undergraduate studies I found the business world, and honed my skills in communication and fundraising, advocating for the missions of non-profit organizations.
Each stage of my career enriched my understanding of human behavior and fueled my desire to make a positive impact on the world.
Now I live and thrive in Apple Valley MN. My wife Susan, who is my former high school sweetheart and a retired nationally known civil rights attorney thrive in the world of semi-retirement. I revive skills as both an artistic photographer and a cook, (I once worked in a two-star Michelin French restaurant in my native Boston), and will bore anyone who will listen about my tragic relationship with the Boston Red Sox.