78. THE MONEY TRAIL
What Research Shows
Money is the lifeblood of addiction. Since buying alcohol or drugs requires a constant stream of cash, sudden, unexplained shifts in your loved one’s finances are among the most reliable signs of trouble. Whether they are perpetually broke or suddenly flush with cash, these extremes show that their money is no longer tied to normal life.
What You See
The most common sign is the sudden disappearance of funds. If your loved one is always pleading poverty despite having a steady job or allowance, pay attention. You might find they have no money for gas or lunch just a day after getting paid. This happens because the addiction gets paid first, leaving only pennies for the necessities of life.
On the flip side, a sudden surge of unexplained cash is just as alarming. If they suddenly have a thick wallet, expensive new gadgets, or designer clothes they shouldn't be able to afford, they may have started dealing or acting as a middleman to fund their own habit. They will often cover this up with vague stories about gambling wins or odd jobs.
What You Can Do
Money leaves a paper trail. When the math of your loved one's life doesn't add up—when they are impossibly poor with a job, or impossibly rich without one—they are likely trapped in the underground economy of substance abuse. Don't ignore the numbers; they are telling you what your loved one is trying to hide. Instead, re-evaluate the allowance system they may be on if they are either contactly broke or flushed with cash and the objects cash can buy. Sit with them to develop a budget and work as if the cash flow issue they have is simply a matter of learning to balance a budget. If they resist, do not allow new items to come into you house if you think they have a money source outside the family. Never lend money to someone who will not cooperate with a budgeet plan. Wait for the inevitable results of poor budgeting - either an overall lack of funds to finance their life, or possible legal problems with finding ways to raise money in illegal ways.
This sign is for awareness and education only. It is useful as a screening tool, not a diagnostic tool. It is not a substitute for professional assessment or treatment. If you are concerned about someone you love, speaking with a qualified addiction counselor or psychologist is always the right next step.